My yoga teacher shared a story last week that I love.
His five year old son recently went cross country skiing for the first time.
The boy loved it!
His dad noticed that whenever his son fell down, his son talked aloud to himself.
The words he spoke were enthusiastic, joyous, and confident.
“He’s down, but he is back up!”
“You got this! C’mon, you got this!”
The self-talk was overwhelming positive.
My yoga teacher invited us to apply the same kind of attitude toward ourselves on the mat.
Can we transition to poses with enthusiasm, joy, and confidence, even if we wobble?
If we fall or lose balance, can we just get back up with a smile?
How about if we adopt this attitude not just on ski trails or the yoga mat, but in our daily life?
As someone who only did things I felt reasonably good at, I missed out on a lot of life.
Luckily, that is changing.
In life, I allow myself to wobble, lose my balance, and fall. And I have learned to get right back up, instead of generating self-criticism and shame.
You got this!
Feelings are natural. Feelings are normal.
Some are easier to recognize, regulate, and tolerate than others.
Most of us can easily list the feelings we like, and the feelings we would rather avoid. Who wouldn’t choose joy over anxiety? The perennial pursuit of enjoyable feelings and avoidance of unpleasant feelings are what fuel addictions, overeating, and mindless screen time viewing.
Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) has replaced Feeding Disorder of Infancy and Early Childhood.
The DSM-Vis the manual used for diagnosing psychiatric problems. It stands for The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition. The Fifth edition has been out since May 2013 and includes changes to how eating disorders are categorized and diagnosed.
This post will address one of those changes, which the new diagnosis is called Avoidant / Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (also known as ARFID).
Note: I originally wrote this article as a guest blogger for the blog “personaldevelopmentcafe.com”
How to be Your Authentic Self in a Relationship
Being your ‘Authentic Self’ can be difficult. Being in a relationship can be difficult. Put the two together, and you have a real challenge on your hands!
What/Who is your Authentic Self?
We are complex beings, each of us.
Awareness of our own mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual selves can be a hilariously challenging prospect.
Balancing them requires humor and the ability to not take oneself too seriously.
So, the next time you see me standing on one leg (physical self) in tree pose, smiling (emotional self) as I read (mental) a story of my favorite Remover of Obstacles, Ganesh (spiritual), you will see my wobbly four roomed home in action!
Balance is not static.
Inspirational & Self-Affirming Quotes to keep in mind, and to offset ANTS (Automatic Negative Thoughts)
Find and repeat your favorites, until a more natural, automatic neural pathway is established.
Whatever you practice, strengthens.
The thoughts you repeat to yourself change the structure of the brain.
Use your mind to change your brain in a favorable way.
“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened” —Anatole France
What do you think when you look at this picture?
My Nana and I used to look at pictures and then take turns telling a story about the picture.
She was a phenomenal story teller!
I miss that. I miss her.
Breathing is free, can be practiced anywhere, occurs about 20,000 times per day, and requires no special equipment.
The benefits to improving the way you breathe are vast. Taking deeper and slower inhales and exhales can help your body increase immunity, lower blood pressure, and heal faster. Taking fuller breaths – inhaling, exhaling– makes you feel more content.
Just watch babies sleeping, and you have a perfect role model! Sleeping babies draw air deep into their lungs, which then expands their abdomen. They then exhale nice and smoothly. When we as adults can slow down our breathing, we decrease our stress response and elicit the relaxation response. Like a sleeping baby!
Dr Daniels, I never really know if I am hungry or full, and sometimes eat so much that I feel uncomfortably full afterward. Does this mean I have Binge Eating Disorder?
Overeating: What is it?
Overeating at times is part of normal eating. Examples of overeating include having an extra helping at a meal because something tastes soooo good, or eating beyond fullness at a special holiday meal or celebration.
Binge Eating: What is it?
The year was 1986. Meredith Baxter Birney played a Step-ford wife named “Kate”, who was married to a handsome successful attorney. The name of the movie is “Kate’s Secret”.
When the film aired, bulimia was taboo. While bulimia may be less of a taboo topic now, there is still a lot of shame associated. And lots of misunderstanding.
It is not unusual for men and women who suffer from bulimia to feel embarrassed and disgusted about their behavior and about themselves. They may develop secretive habits to hide their behavior.
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Here I get real on body image, eating, sex, yoga and more. Sometimes the topics are more random. All relate to psychology (after all, I am a psychologist!) --Dr.D